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Thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive!

Dear Mattie Blog Readers,

It means a great deal to us that you take the time to write to us and to share your thoughts, feelings, and reflections on Mattie's battle and death. Your messages are very meaningful to us and help support us through very challenging times. To you we are forever grateful. As my readers know, I promised to write the blog for a year after Mattie's death, which would mean that I could technically stop writing on September 9, 2010. However, at the moment, I feel like our journey with grief still needs to be processed and fortunately I have a willing support network still committed to reading. Therefore, the blog continues on. If I should find the need to stop writing, I assure you I will give you advanced notice. In the mean time, thank you for reading, thank you for having the courage to share this journey with us, and most importantly thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive.


As Mattie would say, Ooga Booga (meaning, I LOVE YOU)! Vicki and Peter



The Mattie Miracle Cancer Foundation celebrates its 7th anniversary!

The Mattie Miracle Cancer Foundation was created in the honor of Mattie.

We are a 501(c)(3) Public Charity. We are dedicated to increasing childhood cancer awareness, education, advocacy, research and psychosocial support services to children, their families and medical personnel. Children and their families will be supported throughout the cancer treatment journey, to ensure access to quality psychosocial and mental health care, and to enable children to cope with cancer so they can lead happy and productive lives. Please visit the website at: www.mattiemiracle.com and take some time to explore the site.

We have only gotten this far because of people like yourself, who have supported us through thick and thin. So thank you for your continued support and caring, and remember:

.... Let's Make the Miracle Happen and Stomp Out Childhood Cancer!

A Remembrance Video of Mattie

November 20, 2018

Tuesday, November 20, 2018

Tuesday, November 20, 2018 -- Mattie died 479 weeks ago today. 

Tonight's picture was taken in November of 2005. This was quintessential Mattie. Mattie had built a vehicle out of Legos and he decided to be a human bridge. Naturally I guided the vehicle under the Mattie bridge, and Mattie loved watching the entire process.


Quote of the day: Strategic planning is worthless – unless there is first a strategic vision. ~ John Naisbitt


We ventured to Peabody, Massachusetts today and viewed a special exhibit called, Empresses of China's Forbidden City. 

This exhibition is the first to explore the role of empresses in shaping China’s last dynasty- the Qing (pronounced ching) dynasty - from 1644 to 1912. Nearly 200 spectacular objects from the Palace Museum tell the little-known stories of how imperial women influenced court politics, art and religion.


Peter snapped this photo of me. Though we both do not know a lot about Chinese history or art, today's exhibit was definitely an informative lesson about life in China during the the last dynasty. The role of women in the empire was fascinating. 

All Qing empresses entered the palace through marriage, Every three years, the imperial court required conquering elite families to present their daughters as candidates for the imperial harem inside the Forbidden City. The girls, around 13 years old, were mostly Manchu or Mongol in ethnicity. Girls from Han Chinese families, China's largest population group, were largely excluded. The emperor and his mother, the empress dowager, selected multiple consorts during the recruitment, but only one empress at a time could be his primary wife. While physical beauty, health, and family background influenced a girl's chances of joining the harem, several emperors and empresses dowager chose empresses strategically in order to consolidate or contain the power of the monarch. The marriage ceremony marked the bride's allegiance to and membership in the imperial family, as well as the severing of her ties to her birth family. 


This symbol was practically on most items and clothing. Especially on wedding objects. As it symbolizes double happiness.
An object used during a wedding ceremony. Notice the Double Happiness symbol!
The empress likely received this headdress as a wedding gift from the emperor and would have it for festive occasions. There are 31 ornamental phoenixes fastened to the frame by pliable metal wire. We learned the the phoenix was a symbol of the empress.






It clearly is a culture based on meaningful symbolism. Flowers of the Dynasty included the peach (symbol of longevity), chrysanthemum (symbolizes long life, endurance and virtue), pomegranate (fertility) and plum blossom (resilience). These flower symbols were embedded in most of the ceremonial dresses. 

A ceremonial garment. If you look close you will see butterflies, which symbolize love. In fact, such a garment would have been worn by an empress during her wedding ceremony. 
A beautiful garment with wisteria. It was truly striking and intricate. 
This would have been worn by an empress on her birthday. Green was for birthdays, red for weddings, and yellow for other ceremonies. 
A close up for the above dress. Notice the gold symbol.... which signifies longevity.

The Qing imperial harem consisted of 8 ranks of consorts with the empress as the very top. She held the important role of manager of the imperial family affairs and mother of the state. The splendor of what she wore and used, and where she lived signified her supreme status. The imperial court closely regulated the life of each empress to ensure she stood as an exemplar for all women, and yet the male officials who wrote Qing court history recorded very little of her activities. They perceived family matters and women's roles as less important than the state affairs the emperor managed. 

Keep in mind that the empresses did not own any of their items. Everything belonged to the empire. 

Qianlong (the emperor) had a deep love for his mom (Chongqing). Chongqing was the longest living empress in Chinese history, enjoyed extraordinary health and traveled widely, even in her 70s and 80s. This walking stick with a jade turtledove, a symbol of longevity, illustrates the close relationship between Chongqing and her only son, the Qianlong's day opened with a visit to his mother. When official duty kept him away, a walking stick like this one would act on his behalf, metaphorically accompanying and supporting his beloved mother. 
Qianlong (the emperor) wrote this beautiful poem when his wife died. He was married to her for 22 years and apparently they were so devoted to each other that he never married again. Despite of course having a whole consort of women living in the Forbidden City. 
This object is called a Stupa. Stupas enshrined the relics of holy persons in Buddhism. Soon after Empress Dowager Chongqing's death in 1777, her son, the Qianlong emperor, commissioned this stupa to hold her hair, which was considered a precious and enduring part of the human body, and served as a memento of the deceased. 

I personally think reading Qianlong's poem about his deceased wife and then reading about how he preserved his mother's hair indicates to me his devotion to these women in his life. Though it was clear that women were not given high political positions and in many cases were undervalued and used to purposely propagate the society..... women did influence their husbands and in Qianlong's case most likely influenced his decisions which impacted the entire dynasty. 

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