A Remembrance Video of Mattie

Thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive!

Dear Mattie Blog Readers,

It means a great deal to me that you take the time to write and to share your thoughts, feelings, and reflections on Mattie's battle and death. Your messages are very meaningful and help support me through very challenging times. I am forever grateful. As my readers know, I promised to write the blog for a year after Mattie's death, which would mean that I could technically have stopped writing on September 9, 2010. However, like my journey with grief there is so much that still needs to be processed and fortunately I have a willing support network still committed to reading. Therefore, the blog continues on. If I should find the need to stop writing, I assure you I will give you advanced notice. In the mean time, thank you for reading, thank you for having the courage to share this journey with me, and most importantly thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive.


As Mattie would say, Ooga Booga (meaning, I LOVE YOU)! Vicki



May 19, 2026

Tuesday, May 19, 2026

Tuesday, May 19, 2026 -- Mattie died 846 weeks ago today.

Tonight's picture was taken in May of 2009. This was a typical physical therapy session! It would take place in the hospital hallways! Having a PT session, wasn't a break for me. I was right along side Mattie participating, encouraging him, and playing along. Behind me was Linda, Mattie's child life professional, and to my side was Anna, Mattie's physical therapist. Two amazing women! In fact, the reason why Mattie Miracle supports a child life position is because of Linda. Linda was instrumental to Mattie's daily existence and to mine. Therefore, when Mattie died, we wanted to fund access to child life services for all children with cancer. As I always say... Mattie was my greatest teacher in life. 

Quote of the day: Forget art. Put your trust in ice cream.Charles Baxter


This morning while getting myself ready for the day, I received a text message from my plumber. YES my plumber. I met Cody in 2021, when we bought this house. Cody spent a lot of time here, trying to correct major plumbing issues. This is how I became close to him and our electrician, Bob! I literally have their cell phone numbers and I can call them anytime and they actually respond. Cody wanted me to know that he returned back to the company I have a contract with for service. He keeps me posted about his activities and his family. He is a devoted husband and dad, and I admire his commitment to do the right thing. All I can say is thank goodness I took an interest in house things when we first moved in, because now that I manage everything alone and have to coordinate services with professionals, I am not starting from ground zero. I know all our professionals and frankly they are all impressed with what I am able to manage alone. Both Cody and Bob joke with me that I am on my way to being an apprentice! You know what they say about necessity.... it is the mother of invention!

It was a busy day with both a physical therapy and nursing evaluation for my dad. I have been working with this particular home health company for two years now and feel very comfortable with these professionals. My dad's nurse took one look at his pressure sores, and signed him right back onto service. They are back to being stage 2 sores and I have got to get a handle on them before they become more significant. My dad has also lost ground physically while in the hospital for just three days! Three days in bed for a 91 year old is equivalent to a month or more for the rest of us. So back to in-home therapy! 

Once all the appointments were over, I took my parents out to Dairy Queen. Those of you who know me well, know that ice cream is my vice. You want to make me smile, you give me ice cream! 

Dairy Queen has special meaning to me, as this was a place I first experienced while in the Outer Banks of North Carolina. I can't tell you how many summer trips to the beach involved getting Dairy Queen. Sometimes we would eat it in the car, while waiting out massive thunder and lightning storms! 

The store we went to today, also has meaning. As I went there with my other half soon after purchasing the house. That particular day we had a wild day of working with contractors and facing numerous issues uncovered in the house. As I say.... bad days, take me right to Dairy Queen. 

While out with my dad, I grew super concerned over his behavior. His face was bright red, beet red. Today was in the 90s, but he was in air conditioning, so he wasn't overheated! Just lookin at him, I knew that his blood pressure had spiked! When I got him home, I started taking his blood pressure every 30 minutes. Finally it returned to normal after an hour, but I have to tell you, I am on edge constantly because if I don't read the cues properly, he could have a serious unattended medical problem. My dad is NOT able to report out symptoms or pain, which makes it very difficult to identify issues! 

Given the heat, I went back outside to water plants. All the beautiful pots we have were bought when we moved into the house. I absolutely love them. Most of the pots around the stone patio have perennials in them, but these are reserved for annuals. 
My rose garden is thriving and will need to be cut back soon. When we bought the house, there were NO roses! I love them and my other half planted this special garden for me. To me this is symbolic of our connection.... something a divorce can never destroy. 


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