A Remembrance Video of Mattie

Thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive!

Dear Mattie Blog Readers,

It means a great deal to me that you take the time to write and to share your thoughts, feelings, and reflections on Mattie's battle and death. Your messages are very meaningful and help support me through very challenging times. I am forever grateful. As my readers know, I promised to write the blog for a year after Mattie's death, which would mean that I could technically have stopped writing on September 9, 2010. However, like my journey with grief there is so much that still needs to be processed and fortunately I have a willing support network still committed to reading. Therefore, the blog continues on. If I should find the need to stop writing, I assure you I will give you advanced notice. In the mean time, thank you for reading, thank you for having the courage to share this journey with me, and most importantly thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive.


As Mattie would say, Ooga Booga (meaning, I LOVE YOU)! Vicki



June 21, 2026

Sunday, June 21, 2026

Sunday, June 21, 2026

Tonight's picture was taken on Father's Day of 2007. Mattie was five years old and that day we decided to take our first DC Ducks tour as a family. This tour bus was right up Mattie's alley because it was an open air bus that could drive on pavement but when it got into water, it converted into a boat. As Mattie was into vehicles, I can't tell you the level of excitement over this bus/boat! In addition, the tour guide gave us all a yellow whistle in the shape of a duck's bill. When you blew it, it sounded like a duck call. That was our first and last duck boat ride, but a moment in time that I will never forget. I have now lost both my son and his father. 


Quote of the day: It's only when you grow up and step back from him — or leave him for your own home — it's only then that you can measure his greatness and fully appreciate it. ~ Margaret Truman


This morning I was listening to the radio while getting ready for the day. Being Father's Day, they played Thomas Rhett's song, Things Dads Do. I attached it below if you have never heard it. It is a beautiful tribute to a loving dad. Like so many holidays, I am very cognizant that Father's Day is not always a happy day for some. Perhaps your father died, or your father was not involved in your life, or you never knew your father. I am sure there are many other reasons why this could be a painful day for so many. What I am quite certain though, is Hallmark doesn't have a father's day card that covers the devastation of my life. 

While listening to Thomas Rhett's song, it pulled me for a moment out of my sea of sadness, and it reminded me that I am lucky to have my parents. My dad's life is to be celebrated, because my dad has always been a solid, unwaveringly, and committed family man. There was NEVER a doubt where his priority and allegiances were and as I told him today he is a rare gem in a complex world. 


Thomas Rhett's......Things Dads Do



This morning my dad got cards and gifts! No matter how old he is, he still LOVES gifts!










We took my dad out for an early dinner. Cheryl, our server, surprised my dad with chocolate chip cookies and a card. We have known Cheryl since 2021, when my parents moved to Virginia. She has been on our journey over the last five years and she always gives us gifts on birthdays and holidays!