A Remembrance Video of Mattie

Thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive!

Dear Mattie Blog Readers,

It means a great deal to me that you take the time to write and to share your thoughts, feelings, and reflections on Mattie's battle and death. Your messages are very meaningful and help support me through very challenging times. I am forever grateful. As my readers know, I promised to write the blog for a year after Mattie's death, which would mean that I could technically have stopped writing on September 9, 2010. However, like my journey with grief there is so much that still needs to be processed and fortunately I have a willing support network still committed to reading. Therefore, the blog continues on. If I should find the need to stop writing, I assure you I will give you advanced notice. In the mean time, thank you for reading, thank you for having the courage to share this journey with me, and most importantly thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive.


As Mattie would say, Ooga Booga (meaning, I LOVE YOU)! Vicki



January 14, 2020

Tuesday, January 14, 2020

Tuesday, January 14, 2020 -- Mattie died 537 weeks ago today. 

Tonight's picture was taken in January of 2008. It is hard to believe that this photo was taken 6 months prior to Mattie being diagnosed with cancer. As to me, he looked like the picture of health. This was what weekends used to look like for us, as we always took Mattie out regardless of the weather to walk and explore. I learned from an early age with Mattie, that he loved fresh air and open surroundings. He responded better to them!






Quote of the day: If the people we love are stolen from us, the way to have them live on is to never stop loving them.James O’Barr


My friend Margy sent me this photo today! Who is this fellow? His name is Anthony. Or I used to call him "the fiddler!" Anthony is one of the gifted music volunteers who visits local hospitals and shares his talents with others. 

Anthony visited Margy today at Fairfax Inova and I guess they got to talking. Anthony told her that he visits Georgetown too. So of course Margy asked Anthony if he knew Mattie. Not only did Anthony know Mattie, but he remembered him VERY well. In fact, Anthony told Margy that he was impressed with Mattie. As Mattie welcomed a new patient one day into their music circle. Anthony told Margy that despite whatever intense pain Mattie was in, he was always nice to fellow patients. Which to me is a lovely memory as Anthony has a different lens than me and I am happy Mattie was perceived this way. Anthony is another memory keeper of Mattie's and I was touched to hear this story. 

This photo was taken in March of 2009. That weekend the Children's Art Gallery in the hospital had its grand opening, with entailed a party. Mattie and I contributed art pieces to this grand opening. Art that remains in the Gallery today. In any case, do you see Anthony? He is on the right holding the violin. 

Given Mattie's love for music and self expression, I knew ALL the Studio G volunteers who came to the hospital.... this entailed musician, artists, poets, you name it! Mattie could have been in the worst of moods, but if he knew Sally the Story Lady was coming to the floor for example, he energized for her visits. I will never forget Sally, Jude (the man with the guitar) or Anthony (the man with the violin). 

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