A Remembrance Video of Mattie

Thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive!

Dear Mattie Blog Readers,

It means a great deal to me that you take the time to write and to share your thoughts, feelings, and reflections on Mattie's battle and death. Your messages are very meaningful and help support me through very challenging times. I am forever grateful. As my readers know, I promised to write the blog for a year after Mattie's death, which would mean that I could technically have stopped writing on September 9, 2010. However, like my journey with grief there is so much that still needs to be processed and fortunately I have a willing support network still committed to reading. Therefore, the blog continues on. If I should find the need to stop writing, I assure you I will give you advanced notice. In the mean time, thank you for reading, thank you for having the courage to share this journey with me, and most importantly thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive.


As Mattie would say, Ooga Booga (meaning, I LOVE YOU)! Vicki



January 30, 2025

Thursday, January 30, 2025

Thursday, January 30, 2025

Tonight's picture was taken in February of 2006. Mattie was three and half years old. I snapped this photo that day because this was a RARE sight in our home. Mattie never napped and when he did, I knew he was sick. As I always used to say.... Mattie had two modes, ONE and OFF!



Quote of the day: When we focus on our gratitude, the tide of disappointment goes out and the tide of love rushes in.Kristin Armstrong


In comparison to the last two days, today was far more normal. Or at least normal for me. Truthfully with the chaos I live with, I celebrate the day if I have electricity, internet, the TV works, and I am not running to an urgent care clinic or hospital. Nonetheless, it was another full day of grocery shopping, three rounds of laundry, physical therapy appointments and so forth. 

All that said, no matter how down and out I am, I can feel gratitude for kindness and thoughtfulness around me. Today, I called the Verizon manager who supervises the techs I worked with last night. I left him a LONG message about these tech angels! He called me right back and told me how grateful he was for my message and that my feedback was going into the personnel files of these techs! I am always impressed with people who do their jobs with passion. These techs had a long day yesterday and worked on my cut cable issue for five hours, not leaving my house until 7pm. Not once did they complain! Instead, they worked hard at diagnosing my cable problems and they weren't leaving until I was up an operational. To me these men were angels! 

In the midst of my own issues, I am still tuned into the world around me and I am devasted with the plane and helicopter crash that occurred in the Potomac River last night (not far from where I used to live in the city). Within minutes, 67 people died, and the grief and loss issues for all these families who are left behind now BEGIN! These are traumatic losses, which make you pause and wonder.... are we safe doing anything? The real answer is no! Prior to Mattie being diagnosed with cancer and dying, I thought we had control over our lives and destiny. But Mattie's death showed me that so much is out of my control, and that alone is disturbing. My heart goes out to all the families impacted by this tragedy and though the news and media may cover this story for a couple of days, they will eventually move on to the next big story. While the lives of these families will NOT be returning back to normal, but instead they are forced to deal with this forever loss. 

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