Monday, September 30, 2024
Tonight's picture was taken in October of 2002. Mattie was six months old. I worked very hard to try to calm Mattie down at night, so that he would fall asleep. But sleep was NOT Mattie's friend. He rarely napped and did not want to sleep for more than an hour or two at a time. Needless to say, we were strung out with exhaustion. Mattie's pediatrician once said to me.... do you plan on teaching Mattie how to brush his teeth? Of course the answer was YES. So he said, you also need to teach him to self sooth and to fall asleep on his own. He then recommended the Ferber method. I bought the book, read it, and though I was hesitant, we tried it. I can safely say the method works like a charm and it isn't a mean method, but a method that provides comfort and support, but in intervals. Brilliant!
Quote of the day: It is a dull sensation, your heart breaking, like the sound of a pebble dropping on the sand. Not a shattering, not a tearing apart, there is nothing shrill or grandiose about the sensation. It is merely an internal realization that something treasured you never knew you had is leaving forever. ~ Samantha Bruce-Benjamin
If you have been reading the blog, then you know on Saturday, a pair of garden shears fell on my foot while I was outside in the garden. I contacted my doctor and she feels like I did a great job managing my foot and tells me to stay the course. I would say the pain is subsiding, but my foot is all sorts of colors and the gash is slowly sealing up. I wish my foot was the only pain I am experiencing. It pales in comparison to how I am feeling emotionally. I will leave it at that for now.
When I look at tonight's photo of Mattie, I think about the excitement we had at picking out Mattie's crib and then his bedding. I went with the cute yellow duckie theme. Kind of symbolic in a way, because as Mattie got older, he was fascinated by and loved ducks.
I took my mom into the city today to get her hair done. The salon is right near our townhouse in Washington, DC. I naturally can't go to this salon without reflecting on my former life. I literally looked up at my balcony windows today and a pain of heartbreak came over me. You know that feeling you can get.... with a pit in your stomach and your breath being taken away?! Well that is how I felt. Our townhouse balcony no longer has adorable flower boxes (see that photo!) and I could see from the outside that the charm I once placed into that space is gone. This complex and our townhouse will always be my home in my heart. It was where I lived my married life and where I brought Mattie home from the hospital and raised him. These years can not be erased from my mind, and I only wish Mattie were still alive, because I really think with his presence I would have been able to survive this next chapter of my life.
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