The Mattie Miracle Walk and Family Festival was a $55,000 success!!!

The Mattie Miracle Walk and Family Festival was a $55,000 success!!!
Thanks to all who attended, contributed, volunteered, and helped to make this day possible! More psychosocial miracles are bound to come!!!

Mattie Miracle selected to be the Flame of Hope award recipient!!!

Mattie Miracle selected to be the Flame of Hope award recipient!!!
The Georgetown University Hospital board nominated and selected Mattie Miracle to be the recipient of the Hospital's highest honor, the Flame of Hope award. The Foundation will be bestowed this honor on March 29, 2014 at the Georgetown Pediatrics Gala.

Mattie Miracle's Interview on Fox 5 -- 3rd Annual Candy Drive is a 2000 pound success!

Mattie Miracle's Interview on Fox 5 -- 3rd Annual Candy Drive is a 2000 pound success!
Thank you for making our candy drive a major success!!!!

4th Annual Walk & Family Festival -- A HUGE Success!!!

Mattie Miracle on Fox 5 News -- Candy to Remember Mattie--November 15, 2012

Mattie Miracle on Fox 5 News - May 11, 2012

Thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive!

Dear Mattie Blog Readers,

It means a great deal to us that you take the time to write to us and to share your thoughts, feelings, and reflections on Mattie's battle and death. Your messages are very meaningful to us and help support us through very challenging times. To you we are forever grateful.
As my readers know, I promised to write the blog for a year after Mattie's death, which would mean that I could technically stop writing on September 9, 2010. However, at the moment, I feel like our journey with grief still needs to be processed and fortunately I have a willing support network still committed to reading. Therefore, the blog continues on. If I should find the need to stop writing, I assure you I will give you advanced notice. In the mean time, thank you for reading, thank you for having the courage to share this journey with us, and most importantly thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive.

As Mattie would say, Ooga Booga (meaning, I LOVE YOU)! Vicki and Peter

The Mattie Miracle Cancer Foundation celebrates its second anniversary!

The Mattie Miracle Cancer Foundation was created in the honor of Mattie.

We are a 501(c)(3) non-profit and tax exempt charitable organization dedicated to finding better treatments and a cure to Osteosarcoma and Childhood Cancers. We help build the awareness of osteosarcoma and childhood cancers, and educate the public and medical professionals about the realities of childhood cancers. We advocate for the psychosocial needs of the children and their families who are fighting this terrible disease. Please visit the website at: and take some time to explore the site.

We have only gotten this far because of people like yourself, who have supported us through thick and thin. So thank you for your continued support and caring, and remember:

.... Let's Make the Miracle Happen and Stomp Out Childhood Cancer!

A Remembrance Video of Mattie

Random Shots of Mattie, Family and Friends

Number of Visitors Since October 12th, 2008

October 30, 2014

Thursday, October 30, 2014

Thursday, October 30, 2014

Tonight's picture was taken on Halloween of 2007. Mattie was 5 years old and desperately wanted to be an air force pilot that year. We took Mattie to Andrews Air Force Base that spring to an air show and he was intrigued by the whole show, the aircraft, and meeting several the military members in uniform. Of course when I took Mattie to the costume store the only thing resembling a military pilot outfit was this army uniform. But thanks to my friend Charlie, she sent me many Air Force patches, which helped to transform the look of the costume! I sewed the patches all over the uniform and our neighbor gave Mattie this adorable hat which most likely did not fit the Air Force theme but it seemed to complete the picture!

Quote of the day: Whatever you do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius and power and magic in it. ~ Goethe

I went to my zumba class today and our instructor surprised me at least with Halloween routines. I haven't gone to class for several sessions now because I have either not been feeling well or was at a conference. I can't even recall how many years I have been going to Jenny's class but this is the first year she added themed routines to her class. There was sometimes whimsical about it and having grown up around the time of Michael Jackson's Thriller video, it was a riot to try to integrate these steps into today's class

I had the opportunity to chat with my friends Heidi and Denise today. Though they both haven't lost a child to cancer, it doesn't mean that they can't grasp what I am dealing with. After interacting with them I felt differently and I had to ask myself why? The answer came down to the fact that they wanted to know how I felt and they asked questions. They did not dismiss me, talk over my feelings, or move onto their topics. Of course the key to all of this is interest and time. I have learned with grief and loss of a child that talking with a fellow bereaved parent is not always beneficial (or at least NOT for me), but I have never underestimated the power and beauty of a meaningful connection. A connection with another person who wants to listen, who makes the time for me, who asks questions, and really tries to imagine what it feels like to experience what I am expressing.   

Later on today I then spoke to my friend Toni on the phone. It has been the day of connecting with friends, which helps since Peter is away. Toni and I of course met when Mattie was diagnosed with cancer. Toni is Brandon's mom, and Brandon was Mattie's buddy! Though there is a 12 year age difference between the boys, they both had a way of making it work! Brandon was like a big brother to Mattie and Mattie really related to Brandon. He trusted him and felt Brandon understood him. I will always be grateful to Brandon and of course Toni and I both see many psychosocial issues in the same light! Toni called me today to let me know that she mailed me candy for the Foundation's candy drive! I was very touched by her kindness and no matter what she has going on in her life, she always remembers us in the Fall and Spring. This means a great deal to me, more than she probably knows.  

October 29, 2014

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Tonight's picture was taken in October of 2006. If you have been following the blog for the past several nights, then you know I have shown you Halloween photos from 2002, 2003, and 2004 so far. Therefore, tonight's Halloween photo should be from 2005! However, on Halloween of 2005, Mattie was admitted to Virginia Hospital Center with sepsis from an ear infection. I will never forget that moment in time! I knew Mattie was getting ill two days before his admission, because I took him to see his pediatrician and told her I suspected he had an ear infection. She assured me Mattie was fine and in her usual patronizing tone dismissed me as an overly cautious and anxious parent. Well don't you know it, I read Mattie's signs and symptoms correctly! Because two days later he was vomiting profusely, spiked an incredibly high fever and he was so ill that he couldn't be managed at home. When his pediatrician examined him in the hospital, she could see he had a full blown ear infection that had spread throughout his system! From that moment on the dynamic changed between us. On future visits when I complained that Mattie had a symptom, I was taken seriously! In any case, in 2005, Mattie and I created this calico cat costume together. We bought this black sweat suit at Target and then went to AC Moore and bought felt and created calico spots and a black tail. Mattie loved our cat, Patches, and he wanted to look like her. However because he got so ill, he was NEVER able to wear his costume or go trick or treating in 2005. So I saved the costume and he wore it in 2006 instead. 

Quote of the day: If you reconnect with nature and the wilderness you will not only find the meaning of life, but you will experience what it means to be truly alive. Sylvia Dolso

Though we just got back from Canada, Peter boarded a plane today for Boston. He will be there for the rest of the week. In comparison to his days working in developing nations, I have to imagine domestic travel is a whole lot easier. Nonetheless, travel in general is debilitating regardless. Especially when it is work related and it involves interfacing with people. Certainly when Mattie were alive and Peter traveled that added a whole other dimension of complexity to our lives. Now of course there is no Mattie and when either Peter or I go away, one of us is left alone. A single digit is never very strong alone. 

I was hoping to have a slower week after I came back from Canada, but apparently slow isn't in my lexicon. I have so much to catch up on and while doing those things today, I was contacted by the combined federal campaign (CFC) office about participating in a charity fair next week at the Department of Homeland Security. The CFC is the world's largest and most successful annual workplace charity campaign, with almost 200 CFC campaigns throughout the country and overseas raising millions of dollars each year. Pledges made by Federal civilian, postal and military donors during the campaign season (September 1st to December 15th) support eligible non-profit organizations that provide health and human service benefits throughout the world.

In any case, Mattie Miracle applies each year to be a CFC charity. However, you have to be selected to participate in these fairs. You can't just sign up and go! So this is our first time we are being invited to attend, and this will give us the opportunity to introduce the Foundation to federal employees who are completely unfamiliar with our Foundation and the work that we accomplish. 

I wasn't planning on this event, so it will take me a few days to get my materials and trinkets together to be prepared for next week's set up! But I felt like we couldn't pass on this opportunity especially since we have never been asked to do this before. 

October 28, 2014

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Tuesday, October 28, 2014 -- Mattie died 268 weeks ago today.

Tonight's picture was taken in October of 2004. Everyone in my household LOVED Winnie the Pooh! In fact, when Peter and I went to college, our college president literally sounded like Winnie the Pooh. We joked about that often!!! When Mattie came into our lives, I happily introduced him to the wonderful world of Pooh and like many of us, he gravitated to the characters easily. Finding a costume for Mattie was always like looking for a treasure, because the trick was it had to be comfortable! It couldn't be restricting and he had to be able to easily move in it. Which was why I usually stuck with sweatsuit material. In any case, he made a memorable and rather adorable Pooh!

Quote of the day: One note is not music. It is what lies between the notes that makes the music. And what is between them is: their relationship. Relationships are the music life makes. Context creates meaning. Asking, "What is the meaning of life?" is the wrong question; it makes you look in the wrong places. The question is, "Where is the meaning in life?" The place to look is: between.” Carl Safina

This morning I had the opportunity to visit Mattie's school to meet with his assistant head of school and the school's new head of school. Joan Holden, the school's former head retired in May. In fact, at our last Mattie Miracle Walk, we gave Joan a plaque and our thanks for supporting us for all these years. Joan allowed us access to her campus for the past five years to host the Walk. Which is a huge undertaking because that means access to tents, tables, all the facilities, grounds crew and the list goes on. The school doesn't charge us for any of our needs either which is beyond gracious. This enables us to make the most profit from the event and thereby directly help children with cancer and their families. 

However with Joan retiring, I really wasn't sure where this left the Foundation with regards to hosting Walks on the campus. I am very grateful to Bob Weiman, or as my faithful readers better know him as "the magic man" for arranging this meeting today, for helping us keep Mattie's memory alive and for introducing me to Kirsten Adams, the new head of school. Kirsten is just delightful and spent 50 minutes with me. She wanted to hear about Mattie, the Foundation, and our walks. I thought that was very thoughtful and generous of her and I feel we have the start of a wonderful connection. 

It is interesting as I was retelling our story to Kirsten, what amazes me is how vivid 2008 and 2009 will always be to me. These years have profoundly changed my life and the scars are very much internal, so you might not see the aftermath on casual glance at me. But they are there! When Mattie developed cancer, our lives became very public and in a way, people paid very close attention to us (though this wasn't something we necessarily asked for!). I do not want to say that our family had the same notoriety as Hollywood stars, but I would say we got massive amounts of attention from our community. That took a great deal of adjustment, given that we all led private lives and weren't used to having people popping in and out of our rooms at all hours, we weren't used to constant phone calls, and hundreds of emails! However, with the passing of Mattie and TIME, things did go back to NORMAL for people. But unfortunately NOT back to normal for us. The connections faded, the massive amounts of attention (the kind we did not want in the first place!) all disappeared, and we are left with memories. Wondering did it all happen? Did people forget? Because I know we are still grieving and yet the world seems to be revolving for everyone else around me!  

October 27, 2014

Monday, October 27, 2014

Monday, October 27, 2014

Tonight's picture was taken in October of 2003. Mattie was a year and a half old and this was the first Halloween in which he wore a costume. Mattie did not like clothes that really confined him or were scratchy or bothered him in any way. So this pumpkin sweat suit was the perfect solution. In fact, sweat suit material became the option of choice for years to come as you will see. To me, Mattie made the cutest pumpkin that year!

Quote of the day: A life of short duration...could be so rich in joy and love that it could contain more meaning than a life lasting eighty years. Viktor E. Frankl

I remember learning about Viktor Frankl in graduate school and the incredible experiences he had surviving in concentration camps. It was perhaps through these experiences that he developed his very powerful and meaningful existential psychological theory and therapies. Yet it amazes me how some one can see and experience the worst of humanity and still through this within one's self find the hope, strength, and inspiration to help others through the misery. 

Frankl's quote, like so many of his words were truly beautiful. As if they were written about Mattie. Mattie only lived to age seven, yet in his short life, it was rich in joy and love. He gave Peter and me so much that apparently his life continues to inspire us to give back each day in his memory. 

This evening I received an email from Beth Parker at Fox 5 news. Beth has done several great stories for Mattie Miracle in the past, and we greatly appreciate her expertise and sensitivity in the coverage of human interest stories in our DC area. Beth wanted me to know that a follow up story was airing tonight about Mathias Giordano. Mathias is 13 years old and lives in Virginia. He is struggling with osteosarcoma, and is out of treatment options. Just like Mattie. Beth connected me with Mathias' family a few weeks ago. I am so thrilled to hear that Mathias' wish is on its way to becoming a reality. The wish is to have a license plate in the state of Virginia that promotes Childhood Cancer awareness. With great advocacy efforts, Mathias' family has secured 450 signed applications and these applications are now before the Richmond General Assembly. Check out Beth's wonderful story link below! May this bring Mathias and his family a ray of sunshine and hope, when I know the great sadness that is before them.

October 26, 2014

Sunday, October 26, 2014

Sunday, October 26, 2014

Tonight's picture was taken in October of 2002. Mattie was six months old and this was his first Halloween. We did not dress Mattie up in a costume that year but I did prop him up by a big pumpkin. The pumpkin in a way was bigger than he was!  

Quote of the day: The human race is a monotonous affair. Most people spend the greatest part of their time working in order to live, and what little freedom remains so fills them with fear that they seek out any and every means to be rid of it.  Johann Wolfgang von Goeth

Goeth was very insightful. Many in our society live to work, rather than work to live. In some ways, I have seen this happen within my own life. Without Mattie, the work that I do has become my life. Mattie Miracle is my work, my child, and my family. Which can be problematic and all encompassing. When I read this tonight, it really spoke to me because despite when it was written, it transcends time and context. Context because I am sure Goeth did not have cancer in mind when making this statement. But cancer has a way of transforming a parent's life and in the process a parent can turn to different ways of coping to fill the void. One of my coping strategies has been non-stop work. Which can be exhausting for me and others around me. 

I received a text message today from my friend Maria. She alerted me to check our front desk! When we went downstairs to the front desk of our complex, Peter found this wonderful note and a whole lot of candy awaiting us!!!

Several of the staff members in our Complex are participating in our Post-Halloween Candy Drive that the Mattie Miracle Cancer Foundation is running this year. This is our fourth year in a row that we are hosting this drive and all the candy collected goes to the free snack cart that revolves around the floor of the Georgetown University Hospital. We are one of the founders of this cart and the primary supplier of this cart that offers free snacks to families who are caring for children with cancer and other life threatening illnesses within the hospital. 

We are very grateful to the generosity and kindness of our friends at Columbia Plaza and for their continued support for five years!!!

It was a crystal clear day today and from our window we could see our wonderful oak tree. I refer to this tree as "Mattie's tree." I call it Mattie's tree because in the spring, we would get leaves from this tree to feed Mattie's caterpillars. Mattie always brought home caterpillars from school, we would put them in jars, feed them, wait for them to spin their cocoons, and then a week later we would have a moth releasing ceremony on our deck. We had many such ceremonies. We learned quickly that tent moth caterpillars ONLY liked to eat oak leaves! Since Mattie was determined to keep these caterpillars alive and therefore I was his side kick in this endeavor, this oak tree means a lot to me.

Peter snapped some lovely flower photos today! I love the perspective of this pink geranium with Mattie's oak tree in the background. 

Mattie's paper whites are still blooming! We planted them around the time of Mattie's 5th anniversary, September 8th! 

October 25, 2014

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Saturday, October 25, 2014

Tonight's picture was taken in October of 2004. Mattie was invited to a Halloween party at the George Washington University that was being held by some of my students. My students invited children from the community to the event and treated the children to free books and then escorted them around campus for trick or treating. As you can see Mattie got a wonderful dog shaped balloon and also picked out a couple of books. He wanted me to read his Franklin the Turtle book to him on the spot and in our perspective he made a wonderful Winnie the Pooh that year!

Quote of the day: Listen to that little voice inside you. Sometimes it can whisper meaningful words of wisdom and make more sense than the deafening noise of opinions and judgments outside. ~ Roopleen

Peter and I have had a very LONG day commuting back home to Washington, DC! Try over seven hours!!! So I will be making this short. Our original direct flight from Toronto to DC was canceled and instead we were re-routed on a connecting flight through Philadelphia. However before packing up and boarding a plane, we had to present to an audience of professionals at 8am! The room we presented in was a huge ballroom and though this was the last day of the conference, people slowly started to fill up the room, despite the early hour!

The panel presentation we participated in from 8 to 9:30am today was entitled, "Quality of Life: A Need or a Luxury?" Each panelist covered a specific topic and covered personal experiences and research related to a sub-topic. The topics covered were:

  • The utility of HRQL measurement in clinical practice
  • Quality of life: the sixth vital sign
  • The challenge of measuring quality of life during treatment with the implementation of a webportal
  • Why quality of life guides the development of a the National Psychosocial Standard of Care for Childhood Cancer Project
Peter and I were invited to present on this panel by Martha Grootenhuis! Who lives and works in Amsterdam. Martha is one of the distinguished psychologists who serves on our National Psychosocial Standard of Care project and she wanted to highlight the standards at this International conference. Therefore Peter and I felt compelled to attend and support this endeavor.

Peter snapped this photo of me with two of our panel presenters this morning. Faith Gibson (in red) is a Clinical Professor of Children’s and Young People’s Cancer Care and she leads the Center for Nursing and Allied Health Research at the Great Ormond Street Hospital in London. Martha Grootenhuis  is the Head of Research and Co-Director of the Pediatric Psychology Department at Emma Children's Hospital, Amsterdam. Martha has attended each Mattie Miracle psychosocial think tank and has worked diligently on our standards project.

To my surprise, I got to meet Ulrika Kreicbergs (far left) today. Ulrika is the Chair of the Palliative Care for Children Program which was established in coordination between a non-profit called Ersta Diakoni (part of the Ersta Hospital in Sweden) and Ersta Skondal University.

In our power point slides, we cited research literature by Kreicbergs! In fact, in both book chapters that I wrote this summer, I cited research by Kreicbergs. I happen to like her research a lot, especially because her focus is on child loss and the impact of this loss on parents and their quality of life. There is a very special feeling to meeting a researcher in person, a person who I have only known through words and paper. It is wonderful to now be able to connect a face and person to a name! It makes her work much more real and tangible to me which is an added gift!


Mattie Moon

October 24, 2014

Friday, October 24, 2014

Friday, October 24, 2014

Tonight's picture was taken in October of 2004. I will never forget this photo, EVER! I took this photo of Mattie at Butler's Orchard in Maryland on a field trip with his first preschool. The preschool was a nightmare, which was why there was no way I was going to let him go on a field trip without being one of the chaperones. It was a damp and rainy sort of day, yet we were out there in the pumpkin patch picking pumpkins! I snapped a photo of Mattie picking his pumpkin. The only good thing about this horrid school is it led me to Butler's Orchard. Which was a farm we took Mattie to often. In fact, our famous pumpkin photo of Mattie, that I posted below was also taken at Butler's Orchard! A photo I cherish!!!

Quote of the day: Not from my heart, for I have not forgotten. We are all the pieces of what we remember. We hold in ourselves the hopes and fears of those who love us. As long as there is love and memory, there is no true loss. ~ Cassandra Clare

Last night Peter and I were invited to join the International Confederation of Childhood Cancer Parent Organizations' (ICCCPO) reception dinner at the top of the CN Tower. The CN Tower is a total experience! I wasn't sure about going to this reception to be quite honest, but since we have been trapped in the conference hotel all the time, it is the one tourist thing we have done while in Toronto. So it was important we got out and saw this!

So what is this organization? Certainly their acronym is a pip and I notice no one pronounces it the same way either!!! ICCCPO's vision is to be recognized world-wide as the body representing families of children with cancer. ICCCPO wants to see a world where the issues faced by children with cancer and their families, both in the short and long-term, are understood by families, healthcare professionals  and the wider community to ensure that children receive the best possible care wherever they are in the world at the time of diagnosis and beyond.

The CN Tower was built in 1976 by Canadian National who wanted to demonstrate the strength of Canadian industry by building a tower taller than any other in the world. Building the CN Tower was a vast and ambitious project that involved 1,537 workers who worked 24 hours a day, five days a week for 40 months to completion. In 1995, the CN Tower was classified as one of the Seven Wonders of the Modern World by the American Society of Civil Engineers. The CN Tower shares this designation with the Itaipu Dam on the Brazil/Paraguay border, the Golden Gate Bridge in San Francisco, the Panama Canal, the Chunnel under the English Channel, the North Sea Protection Works off the European coast, and the Empire State Building. Each year, over 1.5 million people visit Canada’s National Tower!

This is the "360 Restaurant" where the reception was held! It literally revolved around the city! We made several revolutions while dining last night. But in order to get up to this restaurant, we first had to take an elevator up that SPACE NEEDLE, up 1500 feet in the air! For those of you who know me, you know I don't particularly like motion, heights and so forth. But I did it!

Upon exiting the elevator we were greeted by VERY LOUD Pipers! I happen to love bag pipes, but these fellows were so loud you couldn't hear anything. I felt like I was back in college and literally I couldn't talk to the person next to me and believe me parents of children with cancer or bereaved parents like to talk to one another. So many of us were SUPER frustrated during the cocktail reception. But we managed in between songs to get words in edge wise!

This was some of the views during dinner! 

Peter and I met David and Avshalom! They are both from Israel. They run an organization (Hayim DSSN for Children with Cancer in Israel) which grants the gift of flying a plane to children with cancer. Literally a child can be a pilot for the day! Can you imagine if Mattie were alive?! I have a feeling he would have absolutely LOVED this experience. David lost his daughter 21 years ago and Avshalom lost his son 21 years ago to Ewings Sarcoma, a type of bone cancer. Both men met at the hospital. Their children were treated at the same time and that is how they met! It may be 21 years ago, but it was very clear to me that honoring their children was at the heart of their mission. Also from interacting with many of these parents, though their grief may not be raw anymore, their journey as I suspected is a life long one. Of course only a small percentage of those represented last night lost children, the others were parents of survivors. 

This group I title the unofficial "osteo" survivors club. Pictured with Peter and me are Edith and Ben. Edith heads up an organization in Argentina (Fundacion Natali Dafne Flexer) and Ben heads up an organization in South Africa (Olives South Africa). Both are parents who lost a child to osteosarcoma. In fact, Ben is the dad I mentioned in Wednesday's blog posting who addressed us from the audience after our presentation and told us about the loss of his only child to multifocal osteosarcoma.

Peter has had to take one conference call after the other today for work back at home! At some point we have worked from a hotel lounge on the 43 floor! This is the view from that floor and I thought it was worth capturing for the blog!