Tonight's picture was taken in November of 2002. Mattie was 7 months old. Peter took this photo of us in front of our favorite tree.... a big oak! Ironically this tree became a big part of our existence, as Mattie collected its acorns in the Fall and in the spring, we used its leaves to feed Mattie's tent moth caterpillars. Before we moved to Virginia, we took a few of its acorns and planted them in pots in our backyard. So we have two mini Mattie oaks with us always!
Quote of the day: Daily I walk around my small, picturesque town with a thought bubble over my head: Person Going Through A Divorce. When I look at other people, I automatically form thought bubbles over their heads. Happy Couple With Stroller. Innocent Teenage Girl With Her Whole Life Ahead Of Her. Content Grandmother And Grandfather Visiting Town Where Their Grandchildren Live With Intact Parents. Secure Housewife With Big Diamond. Undamaged Group Of Young Men On Skateboards. Good Man With Baby In BabyBjörn Who Loves His Wife. Dogs Who Never Have To Worry. Young Kids Kissing Publicly. Then every so often I see one like me, one of the shambling gaunt women without makeup, looking older than she is: Divorcing Woman Wondering How The F*** This Happened. ~ Suzanne Finnamore
After I dropped my dad off at his memory care center this morning, I headed to the Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV). Fortunately I made an appointment because the place was hopping with people. I am very impressed with the Chantilly DMV. It is well run and efficient. With an appointment, I literally was helped within minutes. Before my appointment, I spoke to the DMV by phone because I had no idea how to transfer our car titles to my name. Remember, all my married life, I didn't manage our finances, car or home maintenance. I have had a HUGE learning curve and some days I feel very overwhelmed or in crisis.
Any case, from my phone call, I learned all the documents and paperwork I needed to bring with me today. When I presented these documents today, the representative told me she couldn't help me without Peter present. I was just about to lose it, but then remembered what the person on the phone told me. She presented me two ways to transfer a car title.... one was to bring in the original divorce paperwork and car titles, or two have Peter sign over the cars to me on the title. The notion of leaving the DMV without accomplishing what I set out to do, wasn't going to happen. So I demanded to see this representative's supervisor. The supervisor came out and I asked him what good is a court document if it isn't going to be read and followed? He understood immediately, looked at my original documents and then the transfer process began.
I am quite certain if I wasn't assertive and advocated for myself today, I would have been sent home without transferring the titles. So needless to say that hurdle has been jumped successfully. When I got home, I had some computer work to do for the Foundation. As I sat down to work, I couldn't get connected to the internet. I literally was about to jump out of the window! I am so tired of putting out figurative fires in my house. I tried rebooting the computer multiple times. That did nothing. I rebooted the modem and router, that also accomplished nothing. I kept getting the alert that something was wrong with my ethernet connection. Finally I was desperate. I crawled under my desk and unplugged everything from the electrical socket. I waited a few minutes and then replugged things! Sure enough, within minutes I was connected again. When I tell you sheer panic took over, I am not kidding, as I can't do Foundation work and complete my licensure continuing education credits without connectivity!
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