Wednesday, October 1, 2025
Tonight's picture was taken in October of 2002. Mattie was six months old! We were outside on our deck. As you can tell from Mattie's expression.... he was NOT happy! What wasn't he happy about? His stroller! I can't tell you how many strollers we bought, in hopes we would find one Mattie could tolerate! It never happened. Mattie hated to be confined to a stroller. He did mind his car seat ironically, but strollers were NOT his mode of transportation!!! No amount of toys and gadgets helped the situation either.
Quote of the day: The worst part of holding the memories is not the pain. It's the loneliness of it. Memories need to be shared. ~ Lois Lowry
This morning, I dropped my dad off at his memory care center and then I decided I better go grocery shopping because on Friday the HVAC people are coming to inspect my system for its annual Fall check up! These HVAC checks make me neurotic, because I know they are going to tell me that the upstairs furnace will need replacing. They have been warning me about this, but as I told them I can only handle one furnace replacement at a time. Around 18 months ago, I had to replace a furnace, and this month, that thing will finally be paid off! Just in time for the next big hit! Any case, I am very nervous about Friday. In all reality, October is going to be a difficult month with renovations from the flood and don't get me started on the pool leak!
While at the grocery store, I noticed they reduced the price of pumpkins. Rather ironic, since to me October if pumpkin season. So as you can see I bought two! Pumpkins remind me of Mattie! He loved these orange orbs, and Mattie loved eating anything made from pumpkin. Which is funny because before Mattie came along, I disliked the taste of pumpkin. Mattie changed that for me! I always used to buy things in threes, symbolic of my threesome. Now I buy for two.... symbolic of mom and Mattie!
The fall wreath on the door, I created from scratch in 2021, after we moved into the house. I remember how excited I was that we lived so close to a crafts store. Something I always loved doing! I remember Fall of 2021, I came home from the store and designed this wreath on my kitchen island, with a glue gun in hand (Mattie would have been proud!). Any case, I store this wreath and it comes out every Fall. What I do know is if this wreath could talk, it would be talking about happier moments within my house!
Later this afternoon, I had another bank appointment. Not about my personal accounts but about the Foundation. I swear between yesterday and today, my head is spinning. But with each meeting, I learn more and more, and get better at knowing what questions to ask.
I really can't describe what my days look like, you would have to observe me to see that I rarely have a minute to myself, I am constantly juggling issues, needs, and problems. The other day I was talking to one of Mattie's doctors. She and so many people are worried about me and wanted to do something nice for me. Such as a spa certificate or tickets to see the Song of Music. At one point in my life, I would have thought either of those things sounded lovely. Now, nothing interests me, NOT a thing. As I told her, the best I can do is stick to my daily schedule and routine. I find deviating from this routine, is very anxiety provoking. I am sure that sounded odd to her as well as to those of you reading my words. But since my separation and divorce, this is all I can manage and focus on. My needs, interests, concerns, and well-being are of no consequence... this is how I feel. Yes my life should mean something, whether I am married or not, but to me on October 31, 2024 (when my divorce was finalized) a big part of life ended.