A Remembrance Video of Mattie

Thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive!

Dear Mattie Blog Readers,

It means a great deal to me that you take the time to write and to share your thoughts, feelings, and reflections on Mattie's battle and death. Your messages are very meaningful and help support me through very challenging times. I am forever grateful. As my readers know, I promised to write the blog for a year after Mattie's death, which would mean that I could technically have stopped writing on September 9, 2010. However, like my journey with grief there is so much that still needs to be processed and fortunately I have a willing support network still committed to reading. Therefore, the blog continues on. If I should find the need to stop writing, I assure you I will give you advanced notice. In the mean time, thank you for reading, thank you for having the courage to share this journey with me, and most importantly thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive.


As Mattie would say, Ooga Booga (meaning, I LOVE YOU)! Vicki



December 18, 2023

Monday, December 18, 2023

Monday, December 18, 2023

Tonight's picture was taken in December of 2002. This was Mattie's first Christmas with us. He was 8 months old and sitting in his less than favorite chair. Unlike me, Mattie wasn't wild about eating, he did not take much interest in food, which therefore made meal times super challenging. Nonetheless, his favorites were oatmeal, sweet potatoes, by the time he turned a year old and could digest dairy.... he became a yogurt fan! You would be amazed what I could hide in yogurt, like meat and vegetables!




Quote of the day: We have trauma, and we have grief. People die, and we find it baffling. Painful. Inexplicable. Grief is baffling. There are theories on how we react to death, how we cope, how we handle loss. Some believe the range of emotions mourners experience is predictable, that grief can be monitored, as if mourners are following a checklist. But sorrow is less of a checklist, more like water. It's fluid, it has no set shape, never disappears, never ends. It doesn't go away. It just changes. It changes us. ~ Mira Ptacin


I was up at 5:30am. As soon as I wake up, I quickly check my emails and text messages. I noticed an email alert from the company which manages our Foundation website. The message said that our domain was going to expire in two days if we did not pay the bill. I recently updated credit card information at this site, so I was perplexed. Mind you 5:30am is not my best hour. 

I quickly got myself downstairs, fed Indie, and jumped on the computer. Fortunately clicked through the link to pay the bill and things did not make sense to me. There was an amount, like 16, but instead of it written as $16, it said, 16$. I then noticed that the organization listed an address in Luxemburg. Naturally I did not proceed. I had the where with all, to log into the portal of our web host service and check out our account. I did not see any invoice or that our site was going to expire. But it freaked me out so much that I wanted to get in touch with a live person. 

When I tell you I wasted 20 minutes trying to locate an actual telephone number to call, I am NOT kidding. Instead, I kept being routed over to a web-bot. Totally not helpful. Finally I came across a number, and I assure you this number is now programmed into my cell phone because I never want to waste time again trying to find help! 

Thankfully the woman who helped me at 6am, was lovely. She walked me through the process and we checked my account together. She was a God sent. I can't tell you how unnerving it was to receive such a scam that early in the morning. It left me feeling very vulnerable and upset, and yet I had no time to process that because if I stop functioning, my house comes to a grinding halt. 

The fraudulent email made me conclude that is there is evil in this world and it is all around us. Yet there are angels in disguise as well and when I interact with people who are honest, kind, open, and caring, it restores my faith in humanity. 

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