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Thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive!

Dear Mattie Blog Readers,

It means a great deal to me that you take the time to write and to share your thoughts, feelings, and reflections on Mattie's battle and death. Your messages are very meaningful and help support me through very challenging times. I am forever grateful. As my readers know, I promised to write the blog for a year after Mattie's death, which would mean that I could technically have stopped writing on September 9, 2010. However, like my journey with grief there is so much that still needs to be processed and fortunately I have a willing support network still committed to reading. Therefore, the blog continues on. If I should find the need to stop writing, I assure you I will give you advanced notice. In the mean time, thank you for reading, thank you for having the courage to share this journey with me, and most importantly thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive.


As Mattie would say, Ooga Booga (meaning, I LOVE YOU)! Vicki



A Remembrance Video of Mattie

May 22, 2022

Sunday, May 22, 2022

Sunday, May 22, 2022

Tonight's picture was taken in May of 2007. Mattie was five years old and this was a typical sight on our deck when the weather got warmer. Mattie loved playing with his hot wheel cars and that day did his own version of a car wash. All these vehicles got cleaned and were in a line up to dry out. You will notice a pinecone too in the center of the table. Mattie was into collecting pieces of nature and taking them home. We had quite a stick, shell, rock, and pinecone collection at one time. 


Quote of the day: Hope is tomorrow’s veneer over today’s disappointment. ~ Evan Esar


On the weekends, I try to take my mom out and do something for an hour or two. If we don't do this, we are literally stuck at home all week, doing the same routine. It can get both of us down. We have an old school house near us from the 1800s. There is a community group which is trying to preserve this structure. Periodically they do events that help to raise funds. Today's was a community yard sale. This is something I used to do when I lived in Boston many many years ago. So today brought me back to those more simpler of days. 

While at the yard sale, Peter tried calling me because a close family friend was trying to get a hold of us to let us know their child died today. Naturally we have great empathy for this family and though it may be 13 years ago, the death of a child, always reminds me of my own Mattie's death. There was nothing peaceful about Mattie's death. It was gruesome, torture for hours, and the amount of pain meds being infused into him was simply outrageous. His hospital bed and room looked like a war zone. However, Mattie did not want to die. His body was giving out, but his spirit was with us. At the end of six hours of torture, Mattie was given a large dose of propofol, that induced a coma and death. When I am telling you it was horrific, I am not kidding. But Mattie flat lined in my arms at 7:15am on September 8. 

It is now 7:45pm, and lightning and thunder have been intense. So much so that we lost power. Then our generator stopped working. Thankfully we have the cell phone number of our electrician, who helped Peter restart the generator. While this was going on, my dad had to go to the bathroom. But his chair is operated by electricity. So he was in the fully reclined position and I couldn't move the chair down. So in the dark, I somehow got him out of the chair and to the bathroom. Meanwhile, who joined us in the powder room? Sunny! It was a full show with no end in sight. 

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