A Remembrance Video of Mattie

Thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive!

Dear Mattie Blog Readers,

It means a great deal to me that you take the time to write and to share your thoughts, feelings, and reflections on Mattie's battle and death. Your messages are very meaningful and help support me through very challenging times. I am forever grateful. As my readers know, I promised to write the blog for a year after Mattie's death, which would mean that I could technically have stopped writing on September 9, 2010. However, like my journey with grief there is so much that still needs to be processed and fortunately I have a willing support network still committed to reading. Therefore, the blog continues on. If I should find the need to stop writing, I assure you I will give you advanced notice. In the mean time, thank you for reading, thank you for having the courage to share this journey with me, and most importantly thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive.


As Mattie would say, Ooga Booga (meaning, I LOVE YOU)! Vicki



April 28, 2023

Friday, April 28, 2023

Friday, April 28, 2023

Tonight's picture was taken in April of 2008. Three months before Mattie was diagnosed with cancer! I would never have guessed that Mattie was sick or how our lives were going to profoundly change from looking at this photo! Mattie LOVED being outdoors and though he was outside to help me water some of the plants, what landed up getting soaked was Mattie! This was of course intentional!


Quote of the day: A river cuts through a rock not because of its power, but its persistence. ~ Jim Watkins


It was another long day on the Farm! Both of my parents had physical therapy today. My dad's therapy was at home. After he completed his session, I got him into his recliner and let him rest. Meanwhile, my mom was napping while my dad had his therapy session. So I had to get her up again and I drove her to the hospital for her therapy session. The amount of driving and herding of people I do in any given day is remarkable. But after a while all of this can become tiring. 

Don't think while my parents are in therapy I get a break! Nope, I am either observing or participating in the sessions. Once my mom's session was over, I drove back home, let her freshen up, got my dad up and toileted, and then loaded them back in the car to take them out for an early dinner. Which amounts to another 40 minute car trip each way. 

After dinner was over and we got home, I helped my dad to his recliner. On the walk to the recliner he asked.... "are we eating in or out?" He did not remember that we literally just drove back from the restaurant after eating there for two hours! His memory is truly gone and the shell of a man that is left over is challenging to face. However, like when I provided care for Mattie, I don't dwell on the reality of the situation for very long. I instead remain focused on the task. I live in the present, in the here and now, and I do not like evaluating what tomorrow will or could hold. This was how I lived my life in 2008 to 2009, and I once again have adopted this philosophy. To me it is the key to survival. 

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