A Remembrance Video of Mattie

Thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive!

Dear Mattie Blog Readers,

It means a great deal to me that you take the time to write and to share your thoughts, feelings, and reflections on Mattie's battle and death. Your messages are very meaningful and help support me through very challenging times. I am forever grateful. As my readers know, I promised to write the blog for a year after Mattie's death, which would mean that I could technically have stopped writing on September 9, 2010. However, like my journey with grief there is so much that still needs to be processed and fortunately I have a willing support network still committed to reading. Therefore, the blog continues on. If I should find the need to stop writing, I assure you I will give you advanced notice. In the mean time, thank you for reading, thank you for having the courage to share this journey with me, and most importantly thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive.


As Mattie would say, Ooga Booga (meaning, I LOVE YOU)! Vicki



November 28, 2019

Thursday, November 28, 2019

Thursday, November 28, 2019

Tonight's picture was taken in November of 2008. This was Mattie's last Thanksgiving with us. His friend brought him this cute turkey hat, and I am so happy I snapped this whimsical photo of Mattie. Overall, however, Thanksgiving 2008 was a nightmare. Mattie was home recovering from surgery. He was very depressed and the first signs of medical traumatic stress appeared. Yet we had trouble convincing Mattie's medical team that there was a big psychosocial issue brewing. Instead, we were home dealing with all of this on our own. I remember turning on the Macy's Day Parade, to watch it with Mattie. But he did not want any part of it. He was disengaging from the world and it was at that point we could see the large toll cancer was taking on Mattie. A Thanksgiving we will never forget. 


Quote of the day: Love doesn't make the world go 'round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile. Franklin P. Jones



This is what our table looked like today on Thanksgiving. 
We set up a buffet which had: turkey, stuffing, sweet potato souffle, green beans, ginger carrots, gravy and fresh cranberry sauce. 











Our group during dessert. Starting left, going counter clockwise: Don (my father in law), Attila, Peter, Charlotte (our God daughter), Koseth, Vicki, Barbara (my mother in law), and Ilona. 

For dessert, I made a pumpkin cheesecake and Barbara made an apple pie. 
Peter jumped out of the photo and Cesar jumped in, during Peter's place. 

Peter worked with Cesar and we met Ilona and her husband Attila in 2014, after the death of their only child, Chris. 

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