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Thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive!

Dear Mattie Blog Readers,

It means a great deal to me that you take the time to write and to share your thoughts, feelings, and reflections on Mattie's battle and death. Your messages are very meaningful and help support me through very challenging times. I am forever grateful. As my readers know, I promised to write the blog for a year after Mattie's death, which would mean that I could technically have stopped writing on September 9, 2010. However, like my journey with grief there is so much that still needs to be processed and fortunately I have a willing support network still committed to reading. Therefore, the blog continues on. If I should find the need to stop writing, I assure you I will give you advanced notice. In the mean time, thank you for reading, thank you for having the courage to share this journey with me, and most importantly thank you for keeping Mattie's memory alive.


As Mattie would say, Ooga Booga (meaning, I LOVE YOU)! Vicki



A Remembrance Video of Mattie

June 12, 2020

Thursday, June 11, 2020

Thursday, June 11, 2020

Tonight's picture was taken in August of 2006. Mattie was four years old and enjoying a trip to San Diego. Mattie absolutely LOVED Legoland and could spend an entire day there exploring Legos and all the rides. Unlike me and my family, Mattie loved roller coasters. He was all about the adventure and fortunately Peter had no problem joining in the fun. 


Quote of the day: Today's coronavirus update from Johns Hopkins

  • number of people diagnosed with the virus: 2,023,347
  • number of people who died from the virus: 113,820


We arrived in Los Angeles on Tuesday morning. My dad has been sleeping in his chair since he was discharged from the hospital on June 3. For the two nights that we were here, Peter slept downstairs on the couch, so that my mom could get rest in her own bed. 

I took a photo of my dad with his physical therapist, Jon, today. Jon spotted my dad as he went up the stairs for the first time today! It was quite a sight to see and my dad was thrilled with the prospect of sleeping in his own bed tonight. 
My dad walked up the stairs. Jon had him walk to his bedroom and wanted to see him get in and out of bed. After that, he had my dad walk to the bathroom, and then back to the bedroom to get in and out of bed again. It was a lot of walking for my dad. 

But it did not end there. He then did strength building and balance exercises with my dad!
I took photos of every exercise, so that we could do them each day! 
There were six different exercises, and I would say the whole session was 60 minutes. Prior to Jon's visit, we had the visiting nurse come in and check my dad's vitals and to do an assessment. My dad's blood pressure, sugar levels and oxygenation are all normal and stable. So he got an excellent report today, on top of which we are finding that he is becoming more lucid and less confused and disoriented. 

I am quite convinced that my dad experienced delirium. It was a very frightening and disheartening set of symptoms (restlessness, agitation, exhaustion, withdrawn, quiet, and in a mental fog) that came on suddenly and the fear was that things would always be this way. 


On Friday, we meet my dad's occupational therapist for the first time. It is hard balancing the host of people who come over during the week and for the most part, I tell them they have to come in the morning, because as the day wears on, my dad gets too tired to participate. 

My days start around 6:30am, in which I get up, and get myself dressed and ready to go. Then by 8am, I make sure my dad gets up. I help him change into clean clothes and then we have breakfast. I am finding having structure to his day helps him and it aiding in his physical and mental recovery. Basically we keep him up, engaged, and moving to some extent until 3pm. At that point, he relaxes in his chair, and then I can focus on packing things up for my parents to help make their move from one house into another next week go more smoothly. Fortunately Peter is with me for this move, so I can focus on energy on my parents. 

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